SFZF SAFER SPACES POLICY:

http://www.sfzinefest.org/safe-spaces-policy/

Please observe the following guidelines throughout the course of the weekend:

Harassment includes:

IDK to me this reads more like “rules for things you can’t do to joe biel at sfzinefest”

"ban picasso who fucking cares"

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sos

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californiablackhole:

tarae:

tendrillz:

alexwrekk:

zine-reviews:

tendrillz:

sooooo joe biel is gonna be at the sf zinefest. what should we do about it? message me if you have any ideas. they did an interview with him and are treating him like a guest of honor. can’t just go to the zinefest without doing something…

my friend got a weird response from someone named tom that compared banning joe biel from sf zinefest to book burning! LOL thanks for nothing.

omg they’re crying CENSORSHIP???

i got a response on monday that said:


Just today I’ve gotten several emails from people bringing Joe’s history to our attention.  None of our organizers were aware of these events.  We’re going to discuss our options and responsibilities at this late juncture.  Thanks for your email. 

SF Zine Fest Crew

???

this is what they said to my friend. so fucking weird!

We just learned about this today and we’re deciding what to do about it.  De-inviting Joe is certainly a likely choice, but I must say I’m (my opinion, not zinefest’s) not entirely comfortable with banning Joe and Microcosm from zinefest.  It’s incredibly unlucky that he’s our FEATURED GUEST and it’s hard to shake the image that we’re celebrating not only his art (which we still are) but him as a person.  But there’s the problem.  What number or degree of actions goes into defining the person.   What level of sin is the cutoff point for banning someone from the show.  Every exhibitor has some dark past (or at least grey past) and should zinefest as a public event discriminate against all people we deem below this line or only people who actually pose a threat to the show and its participants.  Would we ban Pablo Picasso - another abusive person?  Should we ban people who have anal sex (formally illegal), or don’t pay sales tax on their zine sales (currently illegal), or anyone who’s cheated on a partner (socially deemed illegal).  Or does any of this matter when it comes to appreciating art. Could we have Joe’s art if he wasn’t personally present?  Now that’s a really slippery slope there…just steps away from book burning.  I don’t have answers to most of these questions, and the final decision will be made by our volunteer organizers as a group, but I thank you for your email - it will influence our discussion.

got the above response from someone named “tom,” you know, the perfect person to understand why i am not down with JB at SFZ, especially while healing from experiences of sexual abuse myself.

i love how joe biel is likened to pablo picasso. or hate it? no one’s burning books here buddy, we just want a radical, accountable and safe space to trade zines!

sos

zine-reviews:

tendrillz:

sooooo joe biel is gonna be at the sf zinefest. what should we do about it? message me if you have any ideas. they did an interview with him and are treating him like a guest of honor. can’t just go to the zinefest without doing something about it. help!

thank you holly for this! i was already creeped out by sf zinefest (in 2010, there was some real weird white dudes carrying aggro signs?), but this is unacceptable and can we make a ruckus? joe biel is total garbage and i refuseee to let the zine spaces i’m part of promote and pander to manipulative and abusive big babies. 

VOM-IN at ggpark?

"

1. Trauma permanently changes us.

This is the big, scary truth about trauma: there is no such thing as “getting over it.” The five stages of grief model marks universal stages in learning to accept loss, but the reality is in fact much bigger: a major life disruption leaves a new normal in its wake. There is no “back to the old me.” You are different now, full stop.

This is not a wholly negative thing. Healing from trauma can also mean finding new strength and joy. The goal of healing is not a papering-over of changes in an effort to preserve or present things as normal. It is to acknowledge and wear your new life — warts, wisdom, and all — with courage.

2. Presence is always better than distance.

There is a curious illusion that in times of crisis people “need space.” I don’t know where this assumption originated, but in my experience it is almost always false. Trauma is a disfiguring, lonely time even when surrounded in love; to suffer through trauma alone is unbearable. Do not assume others are reaching out, showing up, or covering all the bases.

It is a much lighter burden to say, “Thanks for your love, but please go away,” than to say, “I was hurting and no one cared for me.” If someone says they need space, respect that. Otherwise, err on the side of presence.

3. Healing is seasonal, not linear.

It is true that healing happens with time. But in the recovery wilderness, emotional healing looks less like a line and more like a wobbly figure-8. It’s perfectly common to get stuck in one stage for months, only to jump to another end entirely … only to find yourself back in the same old mud again next year.

Recovery lasts a long, long time. Expect seasons.

4. Surviving trauma takes “firefighters” and “builders.” Very few people are both.

This is a tough one. In times of crisis, we want our family, partner, or dearest friends to be everything for us. But surviving trauma requires at least two types of people: the crisis team — those friends who can drop everything and jump into the fray by your side, and the reconstruction crew — those whose calm, steady care will help nudge you out the door into regaining your footing in the world. In my experience, it is extremely rare for any individual to be both a firefighter and a builder. This is one reason why trauma is a lonely experience. Even if you share suffering with others, no one else will be able to fully walk the road with you the whole way.

A hard lesson of trauma is learning to forgive and love your partner, best friend, or family even when they fail at one of these roles. Conversely, one of the deepest joys is finding both kinds of companions beside you on the journey.

5. Grieving is social, and so is healing.

For as private a pain as trauma is, for all the healing that time and self-work will bring, we are wired for contact. Just as relationships can hurt us most deeply, it is only through relationship that we can be most fully healed.

It’s not easy to know what this looks like — can I trust casual acquaintances with my hurt? If my family is the source of trauma, can they also be the source of healing? How long until this friend walks away? Does communal prayer help or trivialize?

Seeking out shelter in one another requires tremendous courage, but it is a matter of life or paralysis. One way to start is to practice giving shelter to others.

6. Do not offer platitudes or comparisons. Do not, do not, do not.

“I’m so sorry you lost your son, we lost our dog last year … ” “At least it’s not as bad as … ” “You’ll be stronger when this is over.” “God works in all things for good!”

When a loved one is suffering, we want to comfort them. We offer assurances like the ones above when we don’t know what else to say. But from the inside, these often sting as clueless, careless, or just plain false.

Trauma is terrible. What we need in the aftermath is a friend who can swallow her own discomfort and fear, sit beside us, and just let it be terrible for a while.

7. Allow those suffering to tell their own stories.

Of course, someone who has suffered trauma may say, “This made me stronger,” or “I’m lucky it’s only (x) and not (z).” That is their prerogative. There is an enormous gulf between having someone else thrust his unsolicited or misapplied silver linings onto you, and discovering hope for one’s self. The story may ultimately sound very much like “God works in all things for good,” but there will be a galaxy of disfigurement and longing and disorientation in that confession. Give the person struggling through trauma the dignity of discovering and owning for himself where, and if, hope endures.

8. Love shows up in unexpected ways.

This is a mystifying pattern after trauma, particularly for those in broad community: some near-strangers reach out, some close friends fumble to express care. It’s natural for us to weight expressions of love differently: a Hallmark card, while unsatisfying if received from a dear friend, can be deeply touching coming from an old acquaintance.

Ultimately every gesture of love, regardless of the sender, becomes a step along the way to healing. If there are beatitudes for trauma, I’d say the first is, “Blessed are those who give love to anyone in times of hurt, regardless of how recently they’ve talked or awkwardly reconnected or visited cross-country or ignored each other on the metro.” It may not look like what you’d request or expect, but there will be days when surprise love will be the sweetest.

9. Whatever doesn’t kill you …

In 2011, after a publically humiliating year, comedian Conan O’Brien gave students at Dartmouth College the following warning:

"Nietzsche famously said, ‘Whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.’ … What he failed to stress is that it almost kills you.”
Odd things show up after a serious loss and creep into every corner of life: insatiable anxiety in places that used to bring you joy, detachment or frustration towards your closest companions, a deep distrust of love or presence or vulnerability.

There will be days when you feel like a quivering, cowardly shell of yourself, when despair yawns as a terrible chasm, when fear paralyzes any chance for pleasure. This is just a fight that has to be won, over and over and over again.

10. … Doesn’t kill you.

Living through trauma may teach you resilience. It may help sustain you and others in times of crisis down the road. It may prompt humility. It may make for deeper seasons of joy. It may even make you stronger.

It also may not.

In the end, the hope of life after trauma is simply that you have life after trauma. The days, in their weird and varied richness, go on. So will you.

"

Catherine Woodiwiss, “A New Normal: Ten Things I’ve Learned About Trauma”  

geesh this was nice to read

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imnothavinit:

BOOST

just in case there’s anyone in Ferguson who’s following info on tumblr as well

sadly, with the way the police are out, marching, and ready for the curfew (with dogs), there are some people that may need this

"We are prepping for a night if jail support. Call 314 862 2249 if you or friend arrested."

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that thing where you spend a lot of time avoiding a certain memory during waking life but then go to sleep and it’s like all you dream about anyway

amazon wishlist for Ferguson protestors

thebluelip-blondie:

femalevillain:

hey someone organized a wishlist of things for the protestors in ferguson (stuff like gas masks, food, drinks, umbrellas, earplugs, etc.) so help out if you can!!

if you can afford to buy something from the list pleas do if not please reblog this

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cross-connect:

NeSpoon is a street artist from Warsaw, Poland. Her artistic focus is on the intricate patterns of lace, and breaking its granny stereotype by using it to beautify gritty urban spaces. NeSpoon calls her artistic approach the “jewellery of the public space”:

Jewellery makes people look pretty, my public jewellery has the same goal, make public places look better.

NeSpoon often uses the usual spray paint and stencils of enlarged lace patterns to produce her works on the street via

artist find at Lustik

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tendrillz:

stamps at the crystal fair 💎💎💎

also the sweetest set of hands

tendrillz:

stamps at the crystal fair 💎💎💎

also the sweetest set of hands